I didn’t say that this was gonna be easy
And I know that you know how to please me
I close my eyes…
I voice my fears…
I close my heart, ’cause what’s broken is enough
So open your ears, this is the sound of breaking up
What is this ‘Break Up Project’ and why are you suddenly only posting song clips?!… Continue Reading
We have had a difficult time in the past couple of weeks, but then break ups aren’t meant to be easy.
I have been disappointed and angry at some of the choices he made in dealing with it because they caused me unnecessary pain. He chose to withdraw from me at a time when I had assumed that we were in this difficult situation together, gentle and sad and united, hurt and supportive of each … Continue Reading
We were both upset, he was sorry…
I whispered to him, “I know you did your best, your very best for me, for as long as you could…”
And then, he cried.
Later, after he was gone, I cried also.
I have a unique name. When I self-google (oh, come on! Like you never!), all of the entries that come up are me.
I discovered today that there is a woman with my name living here in my rather small city and she goes to the same doctor’s office as me!! It has kind of blown my mind! How do I know this, you may well ask?!
I went to the doctor today. It’s a … Continue Reading
Once upon a time, I went out with vanilla boys, before I found any BDSM community, and after also. I was thinking recently about vanilla and submissive dates… they are quite different in my experience. Submissive men tend to wait, they are a little afraid of taking initiative in case they get it wrong, so they wait to be led, which is fine with me, but there are many many ways to show interest that … Continue Reading
Nobody ever talks about ‘force’ as a kink.
We frequently hear about ‘forced’ activities, but the focus is always on the activity rather than the force.
Now, I know the term ‘force’ raises some hackles, so how about we say force = coercion? Hmm… that sounds just as bad doesn’t it?
It’s a tricky thing to talk about because people are all ‘well you’re just ‘making’ them do something they wanted to do anyway, they … Continue Reading
I wrote this on a discussion board recently:
Wilful disobedience is a signal that something is wrong, and if you don’t understand and fix the underlying problem, it’s a fast path to nowhere.
My boy has been wilfully disobedient recently. It *is* a signal that something is wrong, I *do* understand what the problem is, but I can’t fix it. *We* can’t fix it, even though we both want to. We are on a path … Continue Reading