Yes, yes he can!!!
Hello you, yes you, the one who googled that question and found this blog:
can a submissive man have a normal relationship?
It led you to this post: Advice for the newly minted submissive man
But oh my gosh… I love that you asked that question of google! I do, I love that, thank you!!
Yes, yes you can!!
Stick around, read a little, send me an email, something, but please believe that the answer is ‘Yes’!!!
** Wondering slightly if my version of ‘normal’ is anyone else’s, but for the purposes of this post, I mean a romantic D/s coupling full of love and win.
16 comments
I believe that a BDSM relationship *is* a normal relationship. While it is true that certain dynamics (such as who is in charge) are different, the same basic rules of social interaction still apply. Mutual respect, honesty, loyalty, and open communications are still in order, just like any other human relationship.
We mostly concern ourselves with the mundane, everyday affairs of living, so my biggest consideration for any BDSM relationship would be the ability get along and work toward mutual goals on a daily basis. The kinky aspect is just a part of what I would want to be a loving and mutually beneficial bond.
LOL. I certainly do.
Yes it can!
Mine would be considered more of an FLR then a BDSM. Officialy now for 10 plus years The first 20 being unoffical lol.
Steve
I'm going to go with a properly functioning D/s relationship IS a normal relationship. The way love and affection is shown is different, but there is still the same, if not more, love and affection within.
I mean, no matter what way you cut it, there will be an underlying thread of D/s, no matter how overt or hidden, in my humble opinion.
slapshot: “I believe that a BDSM relationship *is* a normal relationship.”
It is, it is!! I do hope that he wasn't thinking normal=vanilla…
*sigh*
I wish he would come and talk to us… we won't bite!
I have totally assumed it was a male searcher, btw.
Ferns
Giles English: “LOL. I certainly do.”
*smile* I'm glad to hear it! Look, look, mystery searcher, here's one!
Ferns
Steve: “Yes it can!”
Amen!
“Mine would be considered more of an FLR then a BDSM. Officialy now for 10 plus years The first 20 being unoffical lol.”
*smile* Huge congratulations!! A Female Led Relationship is of course D/s, and *might* be BDSM if you are one of the types who considers the DS in the middle there to be doing double duty (Bondage & Discipline/Domination & Submission/Sadism & Masochism)!
Ferns
John: “I'm going to go with a properly functioning D/s relationship IS a normal relationship.”
I totally agree!
“The way love and affection is shown is different, but there is still the same, if not more, love and affection within.”
Yes, hear that, question-asking-guy? Are we helping?
Ferns
Normal ?
Us ?
* laughs and laughs and laughs *
Coug
Coug: “Normal ?”
*laugh* Nobody said *you* were normal… that would just be a lie!
Me, though, I am perfectly normal! I get to define 'normal', though, right? Of course I do, I'm the Domme!
Ferns
Of note: asking google if “a dominant woman can have a normal relationship” does not bring me to your blog. I tried it…it brought up a load of nonsense.
~Tilly
aka Semi-Secret Lurker Friend
Tilly: “…asking google if “a dominant woman can have a normal relationship” does not bring me to your blog.”
*laugh* I tried it too, and I did find a link to this question: “I'm attracted to dominant women? do they really exist?” I was too scared to look at it just in case I am a figment of my own imagination…
Thank you for the delurk!
Ferns
“I'm attracted to dominant women? do they really exist?”
Coug
I spank therefore I am * nods all wise like *
Coug: “I spank therefore I am *nods all wise like*”
*nods sagely back* Thank you, kinky Descartes!
Ferns
Not exactly sure what normal means. But my relationships have varied enough that one of them simply has to have been normal.
I looked at the online BusinessDictionary. Regarding the word “norm”:
“Informal guideline about what is considered (correct or incorrect) social behavior in a particular group or social unit. Norms form expectations that members have from each other…”
If an F/m group were to gel, male submission and female dominance would be norms in this context. So, yes, a male submissive could have a “normal” relationship.