Nearly a year ago, I published Aaron’s happy femdom story. As a young submissive, Aaron wrote about finding his feet and how he was lucky enough to meet a wonderful woman with whom to share his explorations.
That wonderful woman is Katherine. I’m beyond delighted that she has sent me an update on how it is going with them. Happiness is not a constant state, not an ‘ending’: we struggle, we work at it, we slip, we fight, we recover, and if we are lucky, we suck as much joy out of it as we can.
I’m so happy that Katherine decided to share how their last year together has gone. Thank you so much!
Author: Katherine
My sub, Aaron, wrote to you about a year ago. You posted his story here. Since it’s been a while, I wanted to update you.
Aaron and I are still together. We’re in love. I’d love to say that it’s been all sunshine and roses, but I’m beginning to realize that will never be the case in our relationship.We are different people and our lives always seem to get in the way of our enjoyment of each other. Last year Aaron detailed some of the rough patches we went through early on in our relationship and I’d like to share our biggest obstacle yet. It’s kind of strange to say this, but all of our recent rough patches happened because of things on my end.
Life has dealt me a crappy hand last year year and due to an accident, I’ve been partially disabled and will remain that way for the foreseeable future. I am young and it seems so unfair to be riddled with pain and varying levels of fatigue everyday. Not surprisingly, it took a toll on my dommyness. I found it hard to feel like a strong confident woman in this condition. Aaron struggled with it too because he could not relate, but also because our emotional approach to our roles are different. When under stress or pressure, Aaron falls more easily into his submissive role, while under those same conditions, I find it nearly impossible to hit my stride as a domme. It took us many conversations to realize that we were different in this way. At our lowest point, we had gone four months without a scene together, or any sort of recognition of the d/s aspect of our relationship.
I have to say that Aaron is an amazing partner for being so patient with me, but also an amazing sub for bringing it up. He brought our lack of play up sensitively, and took all the pressure off by saying he wanted to start back into it slowly. He was just so damn eager, so damn cute and beautiful, and all those things I’ve always adored about him. He truly demonstrated his willingness to serve me. As a domme I never expected to be nudged by my submissive like this, but I honestly needed it. Our conversation expanded the possibilities of what my sub could do for me. Now I think to ask him to help me out of bed, put on my shoes for me and give me gentle massages. Aaron still reads to me nightly to help my sleep, too, and I don’t even have to ask.
This Valentine’s Day I intend to play with Aaron until he becomes a huge puddle of subby for me, only capable of uttering “Yes, ma’am” in the smallest and cutest of voices. He is mine, and I will take so many orgasms from him that night. I will be the strongest domme I’ve ever been. <3 ___
This post is part of a project to share happy, positive femdom relationship stories. If you have a story and are willing to share it, please email it to me (ferns at domme-chronicles dot com).
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Hello! I thought I should stop lurking and say something. She knew I would be checking your blog tonight as per my traditional problem set procrastination habits. I was actually hanging out with her when I saw it! She made me read it out loud and start over whenever I flubbed over a word with excitement!
I know it hasn’t been easy for us. But, whatever has happened in the past we’ve faced as a team. You’ve supported me so much, Katie, and I try my best to give you what you need. I know sometimes I could be more positive and more patient. It’s something I need to constantly work on. But I want to make you happy, and I want us to be happy together. That means that your needs come first, especially when it comes to your recovery.
Yes, I was frustrated sometimes, but I knew that your health is more important than play. I feel subby when I’m stressed because it’s an escape. I can shut down my worry-wart brain and give into you and get energized by your control. But, I know that needing play due to stress isn’t healthy. For us to both get what we want we need to work together and build the kind of positive environment where play can naturally happen. I think that we’ve really been doing that lately, and it’s been incredible. You make me melt so easily and I can just tell how much pleasure my submission gives you. It makes me so happy.
Katie, you’re my partner, my domme, and my best friend. I know things are never ideal, but I feel so lucky to be yours. I can’t wait to finish up this assignment and crawl into bed next to you. I think I’ll dream about valentines day… if your cock ever settles down and let’s me get some rest!
And, as always, thank you ma’am.
Oh. My. God!!!! You two are so lovely! I did NOT tear up and you can’t prove I did!
Thank you both so much for sharing, I wish you both the very best.
Also, a very happy Valentine’s day!
Ferns
Yay, more happy femdom stories. I never get enough of those. I’m glad to read that Katherine and Aaron are finding ways to work through a rough time. Things are so much better with communication, aren’t they?
“I did NOT tear up and you can’t prove I did!”
I think I found your tear right here in the corner of my eye.
I love her sharing of the struggles. I wish those Femdom books we’ve been shredding on fetlife actually would talk about THESE issues. It’s such a common issue, especially for novice dominants. Even if the books don’t do anything more than state it happens, it’s normal… I think it would svae a lot of Dommes from the grief and guilt they can feel when it happens.
*nod nod* I agree totally with this!
I can understand why we don’t hear a lot about the struggles that dominant women feel.
For one, it’s so personal, hits our ego, our confidence, all that.
For another, finding a safe space to share that stuff difficult. In many ‘safe’ places, SOOO many people will jump in with advice that implies that the person is a failure/not being dominant/some other thing *even if they don’t mean it like that*, and that’s difficult and hurtful when you are already feeling vulnerable.
When I have shared difficult things here on the blog, the support has been wonderful, but this *is* a safe space for me (and hopefully for others who contribute or comment).
I would NEVER share that kind of thing on a site like Fetlife where it is ‘public’, it just doesn’t feel safe to me. I suspect many women feel the same, so you rarely hear people talk about it in public spaces.
I love that Katherine was willing to share her story’s complexities here! So awesome!
Ferns
Awww! So sweet! The love and respect they have for each other comes through in every word. Thank you, Aaron and Katherine for sharing your story! ♥