The OKCupid version (yes, I joined a vanilla dating site: more on this later!).
These are random emails I have sent out to men whose profiles I liked (as opposed to replies to emails that landed in my inbox).
To be clear, the first three were not potential matches: I just like to send out compliments to people when I see something interesting. It’s fun to say sweet things to people. It’s also stress free and you just never know what sort of conversations you might strike up out of a random compliment thrown into the void.
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To local 22M:
“I’m phenomenal in bed. I could sleep for like.. 10/11 hours easily – not counting naps, obviously.”
Yours is the first profile I’ve read that made me laugh. Very cute.
Good luck finding what you are looking for!
Ferns
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To local 31M:
You keep popping up on my screen with your raggedy beaver hat (I’m imagining you as a suburb-scouring Fagan who recruits kids to secure him beaver pelts for slightly deranged hat-making projects!) because OkCupid is a jerk who cares not a whit for your age-range preferences.
Either way, your profile made me laugh out loud (oh, the chairs! *laugh*) and Catch 22 is my favourite and oh my, tall! Damn you!
Best of luck finding what you are looking for.
Ferns
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To 44M, local:
We aren’t a match, but I enjoyed reading your profile, and holy fuck, those eyes! I lament that I am unoriginal in holy fucking about them, but I’ll deal with it and holy fuck anyway.
How strange a concept it is to give a compliment on something that someone has absolutely no control over, it seems like saying ‘Congratulations for being born that way!’
But still, I’m saying it. Beautiful!
Also the half smirk you have going on there isn’t bad either.
Ferns
Edited to add: More about holy-fuck-beautiful-eyes under this category.
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To 39M, not local (he laid out a fabulous thoughts about a D/s relationship in his profile, 97% match):
Practicalities before I wax lyrical about your stellar profile, which I adore beyond adoration for its articulate expression and thoughtful vision:
I am outside of your age range, and in Australia. I don’t want to waste your time or mine if either of those is a show stopper for you.
I have the dilemma of wanting to respect your preferences, but then again, when I see something worthwhile, I’m not going to let it slip by untried.
I’d love to have a conversation or two (okay, maybe three, or four, or ten, I’m flexible with this…) with you to see if there is something worth pursuing here. Really: 97% compatibility? I fear you crawled inside my head and made crib notes.
Ferns
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As to what happened afterwards: two didn’t reply, one was terribly sweet and made happy by the compliment, and one replied with humour and smarts and is an ongoing casual conversation.
For the record, the only one I was serious about (the last, 97% guy) was one of the ‘did not reply’ guys.
10 Feb. Edited to add: Another reply today. The guy was so shocked to get a friendly email that he didn’t know what to say. Funny.
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I enjoyed reading those. They remind me of the first time you answered my email to you.
It had to do with a question you had asked your readers about displaying graphics on your blog. I remember thinking how adorably clever you were and I swooned just a little bit.
*smile* Awww… sweet. I’m ever so glad I was nice to you (and ‘adorably clever’!)!!
Ferns
I want to say thank you for showing me these previously because they helped open my eyes on how much I needed to relax in emailing people. More importantly the advice you gave me to send out nice emails without expecting anything in return really helped because since I started doing that and took some of the pressure off my shoulders now I am getting replies! And two are really good exchanges so far.
It is also just interesting to see how other people do these types of things.
Respectfully,
Mysticlez
“… since I started doing that and took some of the pressure off my shoulders now I am getting replies! And two are really good exchanges so far.”
Woot!! That’s great to hear!
And I know what you mean. I am super curious how others go about it too.
I figure that if someone doesn’t like my approach for *whatever* reason, then I have failed their initial compatibility test (or you know, they didn’t like my profile, pics, Q&A etc), so I don’t sweat it too much.
Ferns
Did you mean ‘Fagan’ or ‘Fagin’ in that email?
Either way, you are prepared to crash and burn heroically in your attempts to find romance.
I hope one day to watch a romcom based on your life. I can watch it on my own, at Christmas.
I DID mean Fagin. Geez, no wonder I can’t get a date!
“Either way, you are prepared to crash and burn heroically in your attempts to find romance.”
Oh, I’m crashing and burning, baby… blaze of glory, dying in the flames, all that!
“I hope one day to watch a romcom based on your life. I can watch it on my own, at Christmas.”
*laugh* I’ll be lobbying hard for it to be called ‘Merry Christmas Mr Shabby Arse”.
Ferns