Q&A time!
These questions came in from some lovely readers via my Ask Me page. I do love that you ask me things, thank you for them!
In case you sent one in and don’t see it here, no this is NOT all of them… the post got really long, so I saved some for later.
So let’s goooo…
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Dear Ferns,
I recently came across your first book while researching for a speech I’m … Continue Reading
These questions landed in my inbox via my ‘Ask me’ page… Thank you for them!
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Dear Ferns,
This is a bit difficult to word so bare with me please (:
I have denied my Top side for a very long time.
When I was single I could be quite aggressive sexually and then I met my husband. He opened up a softer side of me and I have become very comfortable letting him … Continue Reading
I’m newly introduced to potential fem dom /sex slave thing, and after receiving couple email tasks, very hot pictures and a 1min long video clip, I’m tempted to get in. My mistress(she wants me to call her such) is now asking for training kit fee of $1200 for equipment and toys via western union, moneygram or interact -e-transfer.
Is this normal or scam?
She seems very good at what she’s doing in manipulating my mind, … Continue Reading
I hear it a lot when some self-identified dominant behaves like a jerk: “They aren’t dominant, they’re just an arsehole.”
It annoys the crap out of me.
Let me tell you a little secret. Come closer now…
The two aren’t mutually exclusive.
I know!! Shocker, right?!
Some dominants ARE arseholes. Also emotionally stunted, insensitive, selfish, rude, stupid, jerk-faced fuck ups.
You don’t get to to say that those people aren’t dominant as if dominance is … Continue Reading
I really want to do a bunch of ‘How to’ posts to cover ‘hints and tips for newbies’ because I see these kinds of questions all the time from both potential submissives and from potential dominants. They’re great questions that many people struggle with in one way or another.
Hello. when answering questions you often say to new Dom’s not take the airy fairy stuff like ‘I want to fulfil all your fantasies’ and ask … Continue Reading
Edited To Add: Here’s a link to the post with my answer to this question and advice for anyone who’s struggling with it in their dynamic:
When your submissive says ‘no’
I was going to write a post pontificating about this, as I tend to do, and then I thought I’d ask you all instead of blathering on about it from my own point of view.
For both submissives and dominants:
… Continue ReadingIn your relationship, what
How does a sub say no at all. I read you blog entry on what to do if your sub says no but a harder question for a sub is how do you say no. Numerous times I have had very bad experiences because I didn’t feel I could deny my partner.
Recently My Lady put me through a scene that was several hours long. It was something I knew I would not enjoy but … Continue Reading