I recently completed a ‘trip map’, where you identify all the cities you have been to and they get pinned on a map.

108 cities in 38 countries.

I need to get out more.
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We have a good day today as a family. Breakfast out, eggs benedict and good coffee, shopping at a nursery for trees for the garden, some time reading, I work on some computer problems, we cook dinner together, we have champagne.

I propose a toast to my mother, who we wish was here with us, but isn’t, we touch glasses.

I sit quietly beside my father, and he cries; this from a man who I … Continue Reading

Sometimes, life is just life, a kiss is just a kiss and play is just play. And sometimes, angels sing.

When I talk about my relationships, I often pluck out those moments that ARE the angels singing, and I hold those instances up to the light and examine them. I sometimes talk about day to day stuff, but even then, I choose the moments that interest me, those that have some small revelation, so I … Continue Reading

I like to woo and seduce and flirt and reel him in, I *love* to do that, that’s how I establish the relationship and the dynamic and ‘how it will be’. The dance is a testing ground to see how we will relate, to play with each other, to find and press buttons, to push-pull and nudge at the edges.

There is a school of thought amongst some Dommes that seems to suggest that seduction … Continue Reading

Given my recent ranty post about having ‘children’ listed as a hard limit, I am now going to ask a question that hits hard up against that rant.

What age does someone have to be before it ok to talk to them about *their interest* in BDSM? I use the emphasis there because I am making a distinction between young people being coerced and young people who HAVE this interest, they have these feelings and … Continue Reading

My twitter followers already know about this (thanks for the notes of support, folks!), but here’s the full story.

For a few months, a light coloured, flat mole on my back had been slightly bothering me. It would scab over and itch. The first couple of times, I thought I might have knocked it, but after a while, I realised that it was doing it all on its lonesome. Everyone knows that scabbing and itchy … Continue Reading

People who include ‘children’ as a hard limit make me shouty.

The only reason I can see for doing it is if they actually believe that playing with minors is such a common and acceptable practice with most of the BDSM community that they have to differentiate themselves from the norm by stating it.

The only thought process that makes sense to me, that justifies including it, is this:

“Playing with kidlets is the norm,