When I play, my submissive doesn’t get to just be the passive recipient of my attention. For me there is a feedback loop between my submissive and me that either works or doesn’t. It can’t be faked, it is part of D/s ‘chemistry’ for me, maybe others call it connection or intimacy or some such, but for me it is a combination of indefinable things. He feeds me with his honest and open reactions (lust, … Continue Reading
From outside
I watch him hurting and I can’t fix it.
Sometimes I make it worse with a thoughtless comment or a passing throwaway that cuts him, I don’t even realise I have pierced his skin until I see the blood seeping quietly from the wound, until I see him backing slowly away from me. He retires to a corner to lick it, silently curled up into himself, I imagine an accusatory look being thrown my way … Continue Reading
Sometimes
Sometimes my passion wanes, and it is not you and it is not me, it just is.
Sometimes you feel so close to me, like you are inside me, like you are part of me and it makes me feel kind of sick, a tightness in my chest and a fullness in my throat, and I love that.
Sometimes I am happy just to hear you tell me about your day and we exchange dull … Continue Reading
Expectations
I have expectations of people I interact with, even if it’s just a friendly exchange. Those expectations vary depending on what my relationship is with them. This makes perfect sense, of course. My expectations of my boss, work colleagues, employees, of shop assistants, family members, casual acquaintances, friends etc are all slightly different.
My expectations of men, and particularly submissive men, tend towards something that could easily fall into a D/s dynamic, even if they … Continue Reading
After it ends – what do I do about…?
Ending relationships is difficult and painful and horrible.
With D/s relationships, in addition to the ‘normal’ stuff, there are often questions that sit on top of the ‘relationship is over’ emotional turmoil that you are going through.
It goes without saying that everyone is different, there are no ‘rules’, and often, even if you *think* you would do one thing, when you are in the midst of it all, the approach that you thought you … Continue Reading
Shopping list porn
Oddly, one of my previous posts describing actual kinky things I bought and did not buy led to some inquiries as to what actually WAS on the grocery list I mentioned (you folks are the perviest people EVER!!)…
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So, here it is… shopping list porn:
- smelly cupboard stuff
[yes, I copied this faithfully from my list word for word… ‘stuff’ is totally valid shopping list terminology!] - 30 second outdoor cleaner
[has been on the list
“can a submissive man have a normal relationship?”
Yes, yes he can!!!
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Hello you, yes you, the one who googled that question and found this blog:
can a submissive man have a normal relationship?
It led you to this post: Advice for the newly minted submissive man
But oh my gosh… I love that you asked that question of google! I do, I love that, thank you!!
Yes, yes you can!!
Stick around, read a little, send me an email, something, but please