I’ve talked about the vulnerability of asking before, but apparently I have more to say on it.
Asking something of a submissive I’m talking to, expecting something of them, then paying attention to it, prompting them to do better: These are all ways that I communicate that I care. That I’m invested. That I’m trusting them with small pieces.
I don’t like to ask things of people. I know that will sound odd to some … Continue Reading
Hot here, brutally bright sunshine, warm breeze, not a cloud in the sky.
I am waiting for my family to arrive. I am hosting this year. They will be stupidly early for lunch. That’s how they are.
I can’t cook, but I will do my best. Crispy garlic chicken with hasselback potatoes and a dessert that is essentially pavlova in a glass. The amazing package of goodies I got from my ex will provide the … Continue Reading
As she does every year, the fabulous Molly from Mollys Daily Kiss has painstakingly put together the 100 top sex bloggers list for 2017.
I’m not on it this year for the first time since 2010, not because I’m not ah-mazing (I SO am!), but because I was number 1 last year and once you hit the number 1 spot, you are disqualified from being on the list ever again forevermore *sad face*.… Continue Reading
Social media platforms and financial institutions are notorious for being anti ANY type of sexual or adult content. It’s not just about censorship and hiding the content, but about stopping those dirty dirty sex people from making any money from it by closing down sources of income, promotional avenues, advertising spaces.
In some cases they have users flag their content as adult content. I have zero problem with this. It seems a sensible way to … Continue Reading
ghosting
ghost·ing \ ˈgō-stiŋ \
noun
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2. the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.
It’s been a thing for a long time, the origins of the term date back to 2006, and it was added to the Merriam-Webster dictionary in February this year.
What has changed, and what I’m seeing more of lately, is people strenuously defending ghosting as a perfectly valid … Continue Reading
I feel brittle.
I don’t know why exactly. Well I guess I know why, I just don’t want to say so.
Not just brittle, but spiky. Edgy. Fragile. Irritated and impatient.
Breakable.
I’m busy being busy. Doing all the things, and doing nothing, making noise for myself, distracting myself from whatever is going on.
It works for the most part.
But I am caught in a quiet moment right now. Can’t concentrate enough to talk … Continue Reading
I call it forgiveness, but it’s not. Not really.
Intellectually, I can say ‘I forgive you’ and I can even think that it’s true and that I mean it. You are sorry, I see that, I’m a generous person, I want to move past it, I forgive you.
But the emotional truth is that I don’t forgive you. I don’t think I’m capable of it, or at least I don’t think so anymore.
If … Continue Reading
