Question (paraphrased from the ‘Submissive men and the women who love them’ Fetlife group):
Are dominant women even sexually attracted to submissive men? They never talk about BDSM as if they are.
Answer:
Dominant women (or even ‘most women’) don’t shout about their interest in sexytimes all over the internet or talk about it with strangers because it attracts creepy inappropriate behaviour from men who think any woman who expresses an interest in sex … Continue Reading
Dear Ferns,
I am a very inexperienced novice dom and I recently met this guy who is willing to submit to me. I liked him so we tested the water. Although the scene was tough for him, he didn’t cry, not a single tear. I tried my best to humiliate him since I was looking forward to seeing his crumpling face with tears and whimpering, but found out he doesn’t feel that humiliated easily.
The … Continue Reading
Subscribe to my femdom podcast: iTunes
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This is an experiment in podcasting, welcome to it *smile*.
The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes and while some of my old audio clips have made it into the podcast, this is the first brand new one. There will be at least one more and then I will see how I feel about it.
The questions I answered include:
“…is there some “playacting” there with the de riguer props (whips and crops, bindings and gags, collar and leash) and the formalized play of rituals; the sub speaking only when spoken to or given permission, lowering of his eyes and made to kneel, bowing down…?”
I think I understand what you are getting at, but ‘play acting’ rubs me up the wrong way. Are vanilla people ‘play acting’ when they dress up in sexy lingerie … Continue Reading
So I just had a scene with a perfectly nice sub boy, after which he left all smiles and eager to do it again, and I felt … kind of awful and have no interest in seeing him again. I don’t know why, nothing went wrong, and it’s never been an issue with previous people, so that’s upsetting in itself, but now I’m feeling weird and awkward about how to tell him there will be … Continue Reading
Yay, Q&A!
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At what age did you figure out you were a domme?
I found out there was such a thing as BDSM when I was about 30.
Before that, I did the work to figure out how to work with power in my relationships, but I had no context within which to put a label on it.
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Hi! I love how dominant girl you are. Yes, I am a fuckable guy! My … Continue Reading
Q&A time!
These questions came in from some lovely readers via my Ask Me page. I do love that you ask me things, thank you for them!
In case you sent one in and don’t see it here, no this is NOT all of them… the post got really long, so I saved some for later.
So let’s goooo…
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Dear Ferns,
I recently came across your first book while researching for a speech I’m … Continue Reading