I got this question in my Asks and it was a really good one, so I wanted to devote a post to it.
Read your most recent post on the Texan. May I ask why you refer to him or other men like him as “boy”? Perhaps it is a reflection of my age, but no adult male I knew would hear this word in any other way than an insult. Is this something the … Continue Reading
These questions landed in my inbox via my ‘Ask me’ page… Thank you for them!
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Dear Ferns,
This is a bit difficult to word so bare with me please (:
I have denied my Top side for a very long time.
When I was single I could be quite aggressive sexually and then I met my husband. He opened up a softer side of me and I have become very comfortable letting him … Continue Reading
Hi Ferns.
I have been spellbound by your relationship with your first. One because you have talked about it so b’fully and secondly because despite being deeply submissive I can be the the kind of person who would not give his mistress the shirt he was about to throw away.
Having aspergers I have considerable difficulty understanding people’s intentions and having been emotionally manipulated and bullied as a child I can be quite suspicious. I … Continue Reading
I sometimes shy away from publishing posts that are quite personal. I read and re-read them and tweak and re-tweak them, but in truth what I am doing is stalling while I psyche myself into it. Strange that it should still feel difficult sometimes, even after so long.
So thank you to those who submit questions on my Ask page. You give me an excuse to gently sidestep.
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Hello again, Ferns! And thanks … Continue Reading
A blessed rest from contemplating my own navel…
Let’s see who’s been hiding all up in my Ask box, shall we?
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I’m a 23 year old virgin male who is extremely submissive. Because of this, I have a hard time meeting women and always want them to take the lead (it has never worked). Any advice here? Kind of worried I may never find what I’m looking for.
My advice: Go where the … Continue Reading
It’s December. I have just returned from 5 days up in the mountains with family. I have just invited family to stay with me for 3 or 4 days. Then I will spend Christmas day with family.
I love them dearly, but this time of year sucks my very limited social energy up like a huge black hole of suckiness.
Thank you to those who popped a question on my Asks page: you are … Continue Reading
Your recent post “Once Upon a Time When I was a lesbian…” makes me want to ask a follow up question.
There seems to be a lot of good information that suggests sexual preference is deeply rooted, hard wired, if you will. In fact, many reputable researchers and therapists make strong cases that this doesn’t typically change over time, ie hetero flipping to lesbian, though bisexual is often recognized, of course.
But your … Continue Reading