Do you have any advice or a sort of primer for girls who want to experiment with being a domme? Like how to find partners, how to open that dialogue, what kind of ‘moves’ to try, what equipment is needed, how to explore the realm of activity… it really appeals to me, but I don’t know where to start.
Hello there anonymous asker,
These are great and huge questions.
My first piece of advice is … Continue Reading
This was such a great question it gets its very own post (also I rambled on way too long…).
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Dear Ferns,
Your kinda like my idol (:
Im a beginner and I was thinking about when I am ready to pursue a relationship with a submissive should I choose someone who is new too? I feel like my potential partner should be able to grow with me.
*smile* That’s such a lovely compliment, thank … Continue Reading
Oh how they pile up when I’m not looking: I do love that *smile*.
Let’s not waste time then!
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Ik neem aan dat Nederlands moet lukken … ik waag het er tenminste op.
Het idee om voor je te koken (naakt of in wat je ook wil dat ik voor je draag) is al een lekkere gedachte. Dat ik dan binnen de kortste keren vastgebonden op je bed kan liggen is helemaal heerlijk.… Continue Reading
I really want to do a bunch of ‘How to’ posts to cover ‘hints and tips for newbies’ because I see these kinds of questions all the time from both potential submissives and from potential dominants. They’re great questions that many people struggle with in one way or another.
Hello. when answering questions you often say to new Dom’s not take the airy fairy stuff like ‘I want to fulfil all your fantasies’ and ask … Continue Reading
I think to myself “I haven’t got enough questions for a Q&A post yet”, then when I think I have, I take a look and go “WTF?! THERE ARE SO MANY!! HOW DID THAT HAPPEN?!”
Despite my tardiness in responding, I really DO like getting questions/comments/thoughts in my inbox a lot. Please don’t think I’m all “Bah, who cares?” about it. I’m not. I appreciate hearing from you, truly!
So, into the fray!
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How … Continue Reading
I’m answering Q&As from my Ask Me page. So, let’s go.
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Hello!
How does an older, mature submissive find an attractive female dominant close to his own age?
I am 69 years old, and basically a service submissive and masochist, who has a few fantasies, but nothing too extreme. I have been into the scene since my late teens.
It’s not that I haven’t tried, but like many of us, I had issues with … Continue Reading
How does a sub say no at all. I read you blog entry on what to do if your sub says no but a harder question for a sub is how do you say no. Numerous times I have had very bad experiences because I didn’t feel I could deny my partner.
Recently My Lady put me through a scene that was several hours long. It was something I knew I would not enjoy but … Continue Reading