I have to say, firstly, that as a femdom dating a submissive, having all of that BDSM stuff on the table cuts out a lot of overthinky bullshit with vanilla men about when and how to bring it up. It feels like I can breathe, which is a blessed relief.
We met at one of my favourite spots for lunch, it’s busy on a weekend. Too busy for my liking, but the view over the … Continue Reading
For some reason I’ve had a flurry of emails in my inbox from local submissive men over on Fetlife recently.
I have NO idea why. I’ve done nothing unusual to suddenly be on anyone’s radar. I’ve been there forever, have no sexy pictures, don’t put up ads etc, so my inbox doesn’t attract any significant attention. I normally get either spam or chats relating to my posts. So it’s like someone suddenly put a spotlight … Continue Reading
So how did my Champagne Boy (CB) and I get from there to findom?
We talked a lot about various forms of D/s over the time we’ve known each other, his ideas and tastes becoming clearer, evolving. He became more comfortable with them, realised that F/m as a relationship model can actually work vs just being a fantasy.
Our discussions were largely theoretical and about long term relationships, but of course we … Continue Reading
I have a finsub now. I guess that makes me a findom.
Typing that feels odd. And I suspect whatever you are imagining about how it works for me is probably not how it works.
Let me go back a step, talk about how this happened.
Firstly, I wasn’t looking for a financial submissive (finsub). I’m not a financial Domme (findom), have never been a findom, no matter how you define it (see here for … Continue Reading
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I had five social events and numerous phone calls in the week around my birthday. FIVE!
It is amazing to me that people want to spend time with me (I am a bad friend/daughter/sister etc, for the most part), and I am grateful for their perseverance, as much as I find the socialising exhausting.
I could pretend that the over-peopling is the reason I’ve kind of shut down, because I have shut down. But … Continue Reading
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
the need for my care.
Because I’m a woman.
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
All you women, and me.
― from Phenomenal Woman, Maya Angelou
