Continued from Part 1…
Both this and my last post were prompted by this musing on twitter. My twitter comments were in turn prompted by seeing yet ANOTHER young woman asking for help to fix what was wrong with her that she couldn’t come from intercourse.
It hurts my heart that young women think there is something wrong with them because they can’t come from penis in vagina (PIV) sex. And obviously the men … Continue Reading
I had my first non-solo orgasm with my boyfriend when I was about 16 or 17.
I was in my last year of high school, he was a year or two older, was at university.
Unlike other girls of my age, our dates involved going out for dinner. I don’t know why. Maybe I saw it in movies and insisted that that was what a date looked like. We would mostly go to a pub … Continue Reading
I just read this post on Ann St Vincent’s blog, and it prompted more thoughts on habitual patterns of behaviour.
It’s easy to see patterns from the outside. So very easy.
People you know choosing the same kinds of partners (emotionally unavailable, clingy, distant, unreliable, incompatible etc etc), having the exact same interactions, running into the exact same problems over and over and over.
When you read a blog where someone shares their life, it’s … Continue Reading
In case you don’t normally read comments, my First has contributed some thoughtful perspectives in the comments of these posts about him (he posts as Her First):
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I had a blog around the time that we were in a relationship, possibly some journals also. I was curious enough about how I felt at the time to go looking for them.
I found the blog content and some old … Continue Reading
A blessed rest from contemplating my own navel…
Let’s see who’s been hiding all up in my Ask box, shall we?
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I’m a 23 year old virgin male who is extremely submissive. Because of this, I have a hard time meeting women and always want them to take the lead (it has never worked). Any advice here? Kind of worried I may never find what I’m looking for.
My advice: Go where the … Continue Reading
In a comment on my last post, Aethel said this about her current relationship:
“I really want to strangle his old doms whenever I think of them. I have had to undo the fears, almost expectations, of abuse that previous partners left behind”
Yeep. That sounds terrible, and I’m really glad that he has you to create that safe space for him.
I actually expect (though I haven’t asked) that my First’s partners after … Continue Reading
For the full story:
My First and I have been gently exploring our past relationship, and in doing so we have been exposing the fact that we never really understood each other. And when I say ‘never really understood’, I mean ‘had wildly different experiences in the same relationship’.
There was the ‘big misunderstanding‘ that underscored a lot of it, but it’s … Continue Reading