I was inspired to think about strap-ons by Britni’s post. Holy hell, hot, stunning photos! It made me immediately want to get my harness and my cock, take pornographic photos of myself and then wildly fuck things. I haven’t written much (if anything) about fucking with a strap-on cock because… well, I don’t know why… maybe it’s just too stereotypical, a little porn-ish, and I didn’t really want to go there up-front and feed that cliché.
I like having a cock, that swaggering heaviness, that obvious, out-there fuck toy, the potential to hurt or to give pleasure right there in it, sticking out like some wanton slut soliciting for business. But dammit, no nerve endings… no NERVE ENDINGS!! It’s like the promise of a pleasure that I can never really make happen. Don’t get me wrong, I love it as far as it goes. It is blatantly sexy, it’s another way to fuck with him and fuck him, another way to make him get that look, that lost distance that tells me he is gone, that yearning hopeless gaze, that grunting whimpering desperation that lets me know, even when he’s mindless in it, that he’s mine. But hell, I want it to make me come, I want to take pleasure from him!
In truth, where cocks are concerned, I have a pretty good case of penis envy.
Many of the things I want to force onto a boy, the things in my head that are madly and insanely hot, involve both terrible violence and getting off from forcing and shoving and hurting and not caring about anything except using him to make me come. Cocks give men the ability to take pleasure, to make someone get me off against their will, and that’s pretty fucking hot.
My mind takes me there, into those dark places, it is a mire of hopeless, cold, unforgiving sexual violence coupled with a detached disinterest in the target of those urges… when I am in it, I just want to use him and take take take. My body, though, doesn’t play so well with my mind, it betrays me by demanding softness, licking and gentle touching, so while the mad irrational violence runs rampant in my head, and my body rears as if it is going to help me feed that desire, it only goes so far. It is maddening and frustrating.
If I had a real flesh and blood cock, I would be forcing it into my boy non-stop, not just his mouth and his arse, I’d be shoving it between his legs, into armpits, behind knees, between arse cheeks, into hands, but mostly, mostly I would be thrusting it into his beautiful mouth stretched wide, making him drool and struggle to breath, shoving it into his throat until he gags around it, fucking that wet softness hard, slamming his head into a wall, the floor, it doesn’t matter what, and I would come every time, from forcing my pleasure onto him whenever and however I want.
I mean, really, that’s just crazy-hot, right?
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Ferns
You make me grin out loud excited, you touch me with your tenderness, and you never ever fail to give me that needle in a haystack that is the knowledge that another shit-hot-sexy strong intelligent woman exisits on this planet.
Thank you.
God, what a hot post!
And the sense of need, the sense of urgency, the sense of imposing yourself with a strap-on is exactly the vibe I get from my Goddess when she's in the mood to take me.
And take me she does… sensually… powerfully… dominantly…
As to your lack of nerve endings, I don't know if you have these Down Under, but “Betty's Jelly Bumble Bee” by California Exotics is a delightful 2-stage vibrating strap-on, 8.5″ (about 21-22 cm) that has stimulating implements on the end of the giver around the G-spot area that never fails to provide my Goddess with an intense orgasm. By far the best strap-on toy for her we've ever come across.
The elastic straps for the harness are kind of flimsy, but damn, that thing is amazing! Even far more than the sensations I'm receiving, having my Goddess getting an orgasm while she's taking me, wants to take me, NEEDS to take me, while she's exerting her power over her pet/toy/bitch (that would be me) is the most fantastic feeling in the world.
Hmmm… I'm working myself into a frenzy here… Well, I highly recommend it. It truly makes one of the most symbolic act of femdom D/s as sexually fulfilling for the female top as it does for the male bottom, if not more.
http://www.bestsextoyreview.com/Strap_On/bettyjellybee.php
Just thought I'd share. Keep up the great work on the blog.
Dymion
Owned and collared by Goddess Selena
I have a custom strap-on that doesnt move an inch and is angled like a real cock (lower than most, jutting up)- and when I put a small bullet against my slit under it….mmmMMMMM..ohyeah, I can come while fucking my slave.
I feel for you! You need to try this out.
MistressKimm
Ms_Six: “You make me grin out loud excited…”
That's so lovely!! What a great start to the day, thank you.
And you are so welcome.
Ferns
Dymion: “God, what a hot post!”
Well, I blame Britni for starting it!
“”Betty's Jelly Bumble Bee” by California Exotics is a delightful 2-stage vibrating strap-on…”
Thank you for the hint with the strap on – I will definitely have a look at it. I'm confused about your G-spot reference though, since it doesn't look like it is double ended. If you could clarify that your link takes me to the right one, that would be grand!
Ferns
MistressKimm: “…a custom strap-on that doesnt move an inch and is angled like a real cock…”
Oh you are teasing me! Where on earth do you get custom strap-ons from? I assume you mean that the harness is custom made (and I just *know* it is going to be in the US and unreachable, but still…). Can you please please please point me to a link so that I can get a look at the sort of thing you mean?
Thanks so much.
Ferns
The idea of imposing your will and getting off through penetration and using a willing(?) victim gets to the heard of domination. Your tone in this post – a combination of pondering and lusting – is super arousing. Thank you.
Yes! This! This is still the thing that bothers me most, that I can't just take my pleasure from lovers, but am limited to forcing them to give it to me instead. There's a real difference there.
It bothers me less nowadays than it used to, since I finally can come from wielding a strap-on, but my body still seems to need a big clitoral orgasm first for that to work, so. Still.
It's a bit mindblowing to read another woman write about this feeling. I've always thought it was just me! Thank you.
lthrpup: “The idea of imposing your will and getting off through penetration and using a willing(?) victim gets to the heart of domination.”
*smile* well, I am not sure penetration gets to the heart, but I'm willing to give it a damn good try!
“Your tone in this post – a combination of pondering and lusting – is super arousing.”
And frustration, don't forget frustration… it tends to make me aggressive, I hear some boys like that. I'm glad you enjoyed it.
Ferns
Cal: “Yes! This! This is still the thing that bothers me most, that I can't just take my pleasure from lovers, but am limited to forcing them to give it to me instead. There's a real difference there.”
YES!!! Thank you so much! That's it exactly exactly exactly!
“…I finally can come from wielding a strap-on…”
I am soliciting input now… you mention that having a clitoral orgasm first helps, but was there a particular harness that also made the difference? I hate that many are so expensive, so actually doing a 'buy and try' is a costly exercise.
“It's a bit mindblowing to read another woman write about this feeling. I've always thought it was just me!”
Nope… you and me Cal! Thank you so much for the 'me too'-ing, I appreciate it very much.
Ferns
“I mean, really, that's just crazy-hot, right?”
Only because you write it so well, for me at least.
Brids: “Only because you write it so well, for me at least.”
Thank you Brids, I appreciate that.
Ferns
Thank you Ferns, I love reading your stuff.
From a sub's perspective, the mental/emotional impact of the strapon is incredible.
Do you put it on just when you're about to use it on him, or do you wear it/wield it around the house so he can see it, so he can sweat a bit? Do you taunt him with it? Do you let him suck on it a bit while you're reading/watching TV? Do you spoon him in bed with it on? A great surprise for a sub to wake up to. All such good fun.
“I am soliciting input now… you mention that having a clitoral orgasm first helps, but was there a particular harness that also made the difference?”
The way my body works nowadays, I need a clitoral orgasm first in order to be able to orgasm (pretty much endlessly) from piv sex. Ditto strap-on sex.
The harness doesn't seem to matter much. It worked with my old 3 strap harness, and it works with the 4 strap jockstrap style harness I'm using now.
What matters is the dildo itself. The feeldoe turned my life around. Single-sided dildos or the nexus never did much for me physically, but somehow the bulb end of the feeldoe really is shaped just right.
(I've been trying to decide whether posting my whole history of wielding strap-ons to my blog would be a good idea or not, ever since I read this post of yours!)
Ferns,
The Betty's Jelly Bumble Bee by California Exotics is not double-ended. At the base of the 8.5″ cock is a contact surface that is meant to provide clitoral stimulation. The vibrating itself is two-stage, so you can emphasize the top part of the cock or the lower part, which will impact the giver more. And you can control the speed of the vibrations.
While my Goddess enjoys strap-on play sometimes just for the act of taking me and hearing me moan, at other times she takes me because she wants to get off sexually on taking me. It's always a very intense, intimate, and powerful scene for us. And this strap-on is our favorite. We haven't found a double-side strap-on that she enjoys as much.
The little implements or ticklers that provide clitoral stimulation seem to be really good for her, and just a few moments after she has penetrated me completely, I can find my Goddess getting into a groove with her side of the strap-on. It's like she's masturbating by fucking me, and I feel all of it. It's just so hot.
Having the clitoral stimulation instead of the double-end also minimizes issues related to ideal angle, length, and width on her side, although we are always on the search for the perfect double-ended strap-on experience.
I can't guarantee that it'll be as terrific for other people as for us, but at the present time, it stands as our favorite by far.
Dymion
Yardbird: “Thank you Ferns, I love reading your stuff.”
You're very welcome, Yardbird.
“Do you… …”
Yes/no/sometimes/maybe.
Ferns
Cal: : “…I need a clitoral orgasm first in order to be able to orgasm (pretty much endlessly) from piv sex. Ditto strap-on sex.”
Grrrr… now you are just making me jealous (piv = penis in vagina for others who have never heard of that acronym!)! Piv sex is not a thing for me, it's 'meh, ok…' I am never going to come from it.
“The feeldoe turned my life around.”
See above… I did consider buying one, just to see if it would provide some magic, but I am sceptical that it would work for me. Thanks, though, for explaining, I greatly appreciate it.
“I've been trying to decide whether posting my whole history of wielding strap-ons to my blog would be a good idea or not, ever since I read this post of yours!”
Yes, please do! I would love to read it!
Ferns
Dymion: “The Betty's Jelly Bumble Bee by California Exotics is not double-ended.”
Thank you so much for clarifying and providing the extra information (your 'G-spot' reference confused me!).
It's great to get input from experience, and this one is cheap enough to 'buy and try'… if it's no good for me, that's ok, it will still be a fun toy!
*trots off to order a bumble bee*
Ferns
Ferns,
I know several places you can get custom harnesses made, and can also recommend some excellent designers, some in Oz. Also have a look at this post for some ideas:
http://bdsmforbeginners.blogspot.com/2007/12/bdsm-for-beginners-part-11-strap-on-sex.html
This eco friendly modification to my harness might also like you laugh:
http://www.mistress160.com/2008/09/pegging-in-light.html
Best wishes, Ms160
Ms160: “…I know several places you can get custom harnesses made, and can also recommend some excellent designers, some in Oz.”
Thanks Ms160! I know that I will never know without trying it for myself, but I really have no appetite for the 'buy and try' exercise since I have kind of done that already. I would love to know which one makes you go, “hell yes, clitoral orgasm, here I come!!” [heh, pun intended].
Is there one that you would recommend?
“This eco friendly modification to my harness might also like you laugh…”
Oh it did, hilarious (and oh, so practical)! That was excellent, thank you!
Ferns
Thanks for the shout out!
This post made me laugh, strictly because it so blatantly differs from my feelings on strapping on a cock. It so perfectly illustrated the differences in thinking between me, a sub, and you, a Domme.
But seeing a woman in a cock? Ugh. I melt. I don't have penis envy because I want one myself, but because I want *hers*.
I think everyone that reads your words thinks how lucky we are to be able to visit your fertile mind. It would be such a tragedy to have your literary skills wasted on some novel like 'War and Peace' or something like that.
Britni: “Thanks for the shout out!”
No, thank *you* for the hot 'women with cocks' pictures!
“This post made me laugh, strictly because it so blatantly differs from my feelings on strapping on a cock. It so perfectly illustrated the differences in thinking between me, a sub, and you, a Domme.”
I am just imagining a submissive woman feeling like me when they strap on… looking over at her dominant like he is suddenly just a set of holes and him looking back and going “WTF?!” *laugh* That image will amuse me all day!
Ferns
Anonymous: “I think everyone that reads your words thinks how lucky we are to be able to visit your fertile mind.”
I hope so, and thank you, that's very sweet.
“It would be such a tragedy to have your literary skills wasted on some novel like 'War and Peace' or something like that.”
Wait…!??!!! You mean there's *already* a novel out there called 'War and Peace'?! throws away work on current novel *sigh*
Ferns
I hope you don't mind me commenting on this, it has nothing to do with strap ons, but I know your readers will thank me (a lot!) :P.
Ferns is selling a couple of corsets on Fetlife and has put up pictures:
http://fetlife.com/users/12518/pictures
:))
Anonymous: “I hope you don't mind me commenting on this…”
Ha! No, I don't mind, but I am *giving* away the corsets. This would be a much more useful plug if I was selling them to the highest bidder…
All those wanting a perve had better be quick though, I am intending to remove the pictures once the corsets are out of my hands!
Ferns
Ferns,
I ended up acquiring a couple of harnesses, with different goals in mind. My main worry was stability, the need to find a harness that was 200% secure and not going to fall off at the crucial moment. No way was I ever going to come anyway, if I was worried about the damn cock going walkies.
For those reasons I often prefer a Vac U Lok system. You buy the Vac U Lok dildo from Doc Johnson (at lots of adult stores) and I recommend Sax Leather's Delux Vac U Lok harness to go with it (http://www.saxleather.com.au/strap-on-harness/deluxe-strapon-vac-u-lok/1621/Y/548).
Less secure but better for orgasms, try D.vice's designs. They are a great Melbourne based company. My favorite is the one made of wet suit material (http://www.dvice.com.au/sex-toys/strap+on+harnesses/jockey/6110-beachcomber-strap-on-harness).
Ms160: Thank you so much for those great recommendations… I'm particularly interested in the second… orgasms… mmmmm…!
*runs off to perve at harnesses*
Ferns
The nerve endings, yes. Lack of them is…useless for some. Useless and cruel. It becomes base and visual only. It is not visceral enough. Just physical with no sensation. Just…there’s a point, but perhaps not at all the right point. The connection is lost. Not all connection, just the….
I obviously can’t explain it as well as my dreams can.
The differences between being the wearer and the receiver are… well, different. My inner thesaurus is failing me. My mental dictionary is on strike. The comment is done-for.