Everyone (ok, a bunch of people) has been talking with delight about Rhianna’s S&M video. “Ooohh… hot!!”, they squeal with excitement. No, I am not going to link it here, it is rubbish.
While I can see why some BDSMers are excited about it (yes, I get it), for me, it’s… meh, whatever… same same, boring and stereotypical faux femdom in latex writhes around for the pleasure of men with some background props of men in gags and bondage… *yawn*
But this… this is hot and funny and just fucking hot to me. I wanted… more… I wanted the actors to be better, I wanted to see him get injured and have some fear and lust and emotion about it, I loved and wanted more of that desperate kissing, I wanted her to fuck him when she shoved his head underwater, I wanted her to rip his clothes off, I wanted her to… more, more MORE (but NOT a rocket launcher… come on!!)!!!
Either way *this* is what hot looks like to me in a sanitised mainstream music video.
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Hey Miss Ferns,
Do you do that sort of growly, predator, 'I'm gonna eat you' look, too?
Damn. I've got this huge desire to be bitten all over, now.
Sir Puppington Lothian.
puppy: “Do you do that sort of growly, predator, 'I'm gonna eat you' look, too?”
Oh hell yes… that smashing, violent, crazy, “take THAT, now come here” thing. That's what lust looks like for me.
Ferns
Miss Ferns: “Oh hell yes… that smashing, violent, crazy, “take THAT, now come here” thing. That's what lust looks like for me.”
*Sigh*. *Sigh*, *sigh*, *sigh* . . . . :-)
Sir Puppington Lothian.
It was supposed to be bdsm? *blinks* You know, that particular song reminds me more of high school and evil suburbia than it does bdsm.
puppy: “*Sigh*. *Sigh*, *sigh*, *sigh* . . . . :-)”
*pet pet scritch*
Ferns
OnyxCoquelicot: “It was supposed to be bdsm?”
Words cannot express how much I love this question. I don't think it was 'supposed' to be BDSM, no. Frankly, I am not sure what they were aiming for with it. I never called it BDSM either. I called it hot.
But…
To widen your question, “is it BDSM?”… That is a really valid one. If we ignore the 'over the topedness' that it got to with being hit by cars, stabbed, rocket launcher etc, then all it depends on is informed consent.
A lot of the acts themselves could easily be BDSM (slapping, punching, ball kicking, tease and denial, shoving, water torture). Some would be really extreme, but could just be a mind fuck also (head butting, slamming his head in a door, throwing him through a window, even throwing him off a building – you could simulate any of those in a safe way as a major mind fuck, just as the stunt people in the filmclip did). Some are clearly just not in the realm of consideration.
If you think about what real people do in BDSM (hook suspension, butterfly boards, kidnapping scenes, play rape, extreme piercing, knife play, cuttings), then a lot if it doesn't seem so far fetched.
Now, having said all of that, which is a 'maybe some of it could be called BDSM/maybe some not' answer, the truth is that lots of things I find hot do not fall under the acceptable BDSM banner, some are completely illegal, morally wrong and/or physically undoable. I am not one of those for whom 'fantasies are just things I haven't gotten around to yet'. At all. I'm not crazy, so they will remain fantasies, but that video, BDSM or no, definitely contains some serious hotness for me.
As a note, I actually also loved that you could see them both laughing at one point.
Ferns
Eh BDSM is the new Bi thats all it's the latest oh so shocking seller.
Oh and the song sucked
Coug
Its not 100% mainstream – but my favourite kinky type femdommy music video is 'Sonne' by Rammstein. A friend pointed it out to me, as I hadn't really bothered with their videos before, but they're apparently quite popular in Germany (and don't make it to 'music' tv in the states). Its also a take on Snow White, which I enjoyed.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_iBb6lIgY0
Many of their other videos are rather visually pleasing like that. Mein Tail ends with most of the band being led up a subway stairs and crossing the street on all fours on leashes. And Man Geigen Man has 'em all buff and naked.
What on earth is all this 'is this BDSM or not?'. It's all about her spiky, bitey, steam. *That* is the rare thing about this video. You barely see that anywhere in portrayals of D/s, even in the best porn. This was a 'hot' femdom, as opposed to the usual 'cool' femdom of porn flicks.
I didn't care about the far-out aggression – the car crashes, the rocket – that was all done for laughs anyway. Gawd. The expressions on her face alone would be enough to send me off to my bedroom with some tissue paper. :-))
Sir Puppington Lothian.
I also think the video was hot regardless of the music. It does remind me of your writings, Ferns. The hotness and counter play between the sex and the violence. The woman's attitude has it right too. In my mind's eye, I could see you as the woman protagonist in your real life version of this video but with more sex and violence, rated X.
robert
OMG…that is awesome!!!
lol
I laughed, clapped my hands and got wet!
I love their song: harder to breathe, now I need to go see what the video looks like.
thank you for this
-MistressKimm
Do you reckon you can do hot, steamy, bitey looks better than the woman in the video or Miss Ferns, MistressKimm?
I think there should be a competition. You ladies can put up pics of your faces looking your most volcanic and voracious, and Robert and I can judge. The winner can push Robert off the balcony of her choice.
Sir Puppington Lothian.
Wendy Blackheart: “Its not 100% mainstream – but my favourite kinky type femdommy music video is 'Sonne' by Rammstein….Mein Tail… And Man Geigen Man”
Thank you! I didn't like the music, but enjoyed the videos. Not 'hot' to me, in the same way as this one (in that “me wants to hit and fuck him… grrr… ugh… drool…” kind of way), but I still loved seeing the 'men as object/pet/worker' thing…
Ferns
puppy: “It's all about her spiky, bitey, steam. *That* is the rare thing about this video. You barely see that anywhere in portrayals of D/s, even in the best porn. This was a 'hot' femdom, as opposed to the usual 'cool' femdom of porn flicks.”
This. Yes.
Ferns
robert: “I also think the video was hot regardless of the music.”
*laugh* Yes, the music is completely irrelevant.
“It does remind me of your writings, Ferns. The hotness and counter play between the sex and the violence.”
Thank you, and I think that's exactly why I like it. *That's* the kind of thing I like… the passion/violence/kissing/desire all mixed up into this crazy sexy interaction, and he keeps coming back for more. God!
“In my mind's eye, I could see you as the woman protagonist in your real life version of this video but with more sex and violence, rated X.”
I wish!! I will work on that!!
Ferns
MistressKimm: “OMG…that is awesome!!!”
*laugh* Yes!!!!!
Ferns
puppy: “I think there should be a competition… [blather]…”
*laugh* Ahh hmmm… I'll take that under advisement…
Ferns
There are also some (imho very hot) BDSM/Fetish-elements in 30 Seconds to Mars video “Hurricane” (13 minutes long video).
Heh. I just did a Google search on images of women looking sexually aggressive.
The results were so tawdry and so sad. It's so difficult to find even a pic of a woman who's pretending the face of 'I want to take you'.
Oh dear. Femdommery has such a long way to go.
Sir Puppington Lothian.
N: “There are also some (imho very hot) BDSM/Fetish-elements in 30 Seconds to Mars video “Hurricane””
Thanks N! I enjoyed the video very much, it was beautiful and intense, though it was not 'hot' in that stomach lurching 'oh' kind of way to me.
There was potential in the 'pretty boy trapped in a coffin, breathing heavy and scared' snippet, and many lovely M/f play elements. I suspect it would appeal to a whole variety of people for different reasons.
Uncensored version here if anyone hasn't seen it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=As75JEHYUW8
Ferns
puppy: “Heh. I just did a Google search on images of women looking sexually aggressive… The results were so tawdry and so sad.”
I can well imagine, though I will try very hard not to…
Ferns