Happy femdom stories – Dani

This lovely story arrived in my inbox from Dani all quiet-like and sweet… thank you so much!

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Author: Dani

This story starts about 3 years ago. I had just left an abusive relationship, and had moved to a new city. I had a few friends there, but still felt alone. After dating a bit, I decided on a whim to put up an ad on craigslist (I would not reccommend this to anyone – there’s a reason dating sites exist, after all).

My email blew up with responses. Mind you, it was a vanilla ad for companionship. I had never done anything related to BDSM, but I was curious. After emailing back and forth with the more intelligent responders, I finally narrowed it down to about three guys.

One day, one of the top three messages me on yahoo. We have a great conversation, which somehow winds into the topic of sexuality. The guy then tells me that he’s submissive, and wants to know if I’m ok with it. I’m always up for adventure, so I say sure, it’s cool. Besides, I’ve never met this guy, so why do I care?

I forget about the conversation, until about a week later. I decide to meet the submissive guy for the first time. He turns out to be just the same as he was online, and cute too!

A few weeks into the relationship, he reminds me of his sexual tastes, and we have a long discussion about each other’s taste and comfort zones. We decide that because he’s a switch (he’s most comfortable as a submissive) I’ll try to be submissive. I’m not a dominant person in the vanilla world so I though it would be easiest.

I was wrong.

It was easier for a little while, but I grew frustrated with all the controls and rules on me. I liked the pain and ropes, but I didn’t like being controlled. We had another talk about what we could do and the subject of male chastity came up.

Well, that was something that really grabbed me! We switched places soon after that. It was amazing – like a light came on.

I’m still learning. Because of that and our imperfect living arrangements, we’re taking it slow. But I wouldn’t change it for the world – and I certainly wouldn’t go back to vanilla!

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This post is part of a project to share happy, positive femdom relationship stories.  If you have a story and are willing to share it, please email it to me (ferns at domme-chronicles dot com).