Happy femdom story: Becca & Adam

This is a story about a long term marriage that had gone slightly off track over the years, and how one submissive man went from seeking kink to looking a little deeper at what was happening in his relationship, and seeing if handing over some control could help with that.

Enjoy.

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Author: Adam

I met Becca while in college. She was walking through the student union in a pair of Calvin Klein jeans that accentuated her beautiful ass. It was seriously gorgeous and I knew I had to meet her. Through a mutual connection, we met at our next fraternity party and the rest is history.

We have been married for almost 30 years and most of that time was not lived in a Wife Led Marriage with one major exception: I relinquished all household financial controls to her early on in our relationship. I am horrible with money and spend it until it is gone. I have a monthly allowance and it works out brilliantly.

Over the years, our marriage has ebbed and flowed. We both did shift work for years and would pass each other: One coming home from work while the other was leaving. We had two boys that, beginning at age five for the oldest, kept us on the go nights and weekends for years: Baseball, football, music. All of these things led us down a path that wasn’t good for a relationship. Needless to say, there was no intimacy… Hell… there was very little sex or communication. We were each struggling quietly not knowing what to do.

Five years ago, I knew something had to change. We had drifted apart and even a trip to Maui couldn’t repair the cracks that were slowly expanding to huge chasms. The primary issue: Well it was my chronic masturbation habit. I wasn’t trolling the internet for porn nor had I ever had an affair. It was simply me zapping all of my sexual energy that should have been focused on Becca through masturbating.

I started researching ways to stop masturbating and kept circling back to chastity. At first I approached Becca with chastity as sexual play and she was truly not interested. She was raised a strict Catholic and was very vanilla when it came to sex and romance. The first few attempts were fruitless as I wasn’t serious either. I would always revert back to satisfying myself.

When I finally started researching Wife Led Marriages and Devotional Sex I found what I was missing… I needed to start “dating” her again. I needed to focus on her needs. I needed to make her feel as special as she truly is as a sensuous Wife. I found several “vanilla” ebooks on Wife Led Marriages and Enforced Chastity.

One evening, I came home knelt down by her feet and began explaining WHY I needed chastity. I explained my chronic masturbation and how it was wrong. She was hurt. I hurt for her. We spent the next few hours just talking. The result, she agreed to read the books I recommended and to buying an off the shelf chastity device.

Our Wife Led Marriage, like our marriage up to that point, has ebbed and flowed the past five years. However, whether I am in our now custom-made stainless steel chastity device or living a Devotional Sex lifestyle, ALL of my sexual energy is focused on Becca.

Our marriage is happier, stronger, better, and I am grateful every day for my Becca’s grace and leadership in getting us here.

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